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8 steps to help you cope with change

8 steps to help you cope with changeWe all need a change at some point, whether it’s a change of scenery, a car or job.

On the one hand, new things can be very positive, helping us to appreciate what we have and get a sense of perspective.
But, equally, they can be daunting too. Do not be surprised if you struggle to adapt to a new situation. Handling change is a skill that people develop over time and it is perfectly natural to feel unsettled at first.
If you are struggling to cope with change, take a look at these quick tips and put them into practice:

1: Accept that change will affect you

People are often surprised when they are emotionally affected by change. Sometimes they criticise themselves for laughing, crying or feeling moody. You need to accept that these emotions are normal when faced with change.

2: Allow time to grieve

Change, no matter how good it is, means the loss of an old way of being or a set of circumstances.
Just as when you lose a person, you are likely to feel grief and nostalgia. Let grief take its course and it will pass in time.

3: Do not resist

Fighting against change will often only make accepting it more painful in the long run. Try to be flexible, go with the flow and this will help you adapt more quickly.

4: Keep to routines

If you have experienced a big change, it may be worth keeping up familiar things to distract yourself. Sticking to routines such as seeing friends and hobbies are good ways of reassuring yourself that not everything is different.

5: Share

If you are worried, don’t keep it all in; speak to someone about your feelings. Having a laugh over a cup of tea can be a great release. Being independent is not just about managing alone; it may mean finding the courage to ask for help.

6: Break it down

If possible, tackle the bigger changes in small steps. For instance, if you are moving house or starting a new job, break the task down into smaller, more manageable jobs.
This will help prevent you from feeling overwhelmed by the scale of the change and concentrate on what you’ve achieved so far.

7: Every cloud has a silver lining

Changes such as death and financial loss can leave you feeling desperate and hopeless.
But each change brings with it new opportunities. Think carefully about your situation. Has anything good come out of it? It may be you have learned a valuable lesson. Focus on the positives and it should lift your mood and help you move on.

8: It won’t last forever

Nothing ever lasts forever and that applies to those feelings of anxiety too.
Eventually, you will adapt and you probably won’t even notice it. Bear this in mind when you are feeling worried and it will help you adapt more quickly.

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